No One Can Hurt Me: Shortcut to Free Ourselves from Mental Slavery
Steal that mental toughness from David Goggins.
Mental toughness is not limited by your genes.
It’s only true if you believe it. As the latest studies unfold that we create our reality by our thoughts. Fuck those who say otherwise.
Or do you prefer to believe something that doesn't help you? And live as a victim of your genes for the rest of your life?
Life is hope. It can be possible with an open heart and open mind.
I admit that pain is inevitable. The forces of pain are faster to drag us down than we can run towards courage. But give shape to our pain. Those pains will make us grows and we can flip that shit to transform ourselves.
Ask yourself:
How can I make use of this pain?
How can I transform those pains into strength?
Reading the book — has not finished yet, but I already felt the impact it gave me. It taught me how to be responsible for my life. It shifts my perspective. I felt I have power and I am a capable human being since I inject those 3 words to myself:
CAN’T HURT ME.
I feel those three words represent the book well. To the point that I am emotionally involved with his story. Why? Because David is authentic. He is not ashamed of what he went through. “Damn shame”, he said. Instead, he transforms trouble and pain to shape him.
Even after I read the book, I got strength. The impact is still in me today. Every time I am feeling hurt or triggered by unhealed trauma, I am aware that I shouldn’t be reactive. Reactive means I let people hurt me, or we let others be satisfied with the fact they can control our feelings.
As David Goggins said:
I could take more pain than you could ever deliver.
Wow! How cool those lines are?
I mean those lines contain and represent how tough he is. He doesn’t give people power but he gives himself the power to be stronger than his bully.
Since I read those lines, I felt I am the kindest human when I face heartless people. It is like I have a strong will to choose compassion.
That is how the experience, the story of David Goggins gave me the power to be strong — Ever before I finish reading his book.
Ever since I read those lines, I was hooked by other emotional lines:
“You have nothing and you are nothing without me. You’re uneducated, you don’t have any money or prospects. You’ll be a prostitute inside a year,” David’s father said.
That is how manipulators try to control us. In this story, David’s father won’t let their family go like he owns their life. David’s mom has ever wanted to go but kept failing because she doubted there’s something better out there. We know it is hard to believe so when life continuously knocks us down.
Interestingly, the story keeps getting good and well.
Here are the last emotional lines:
She packed as little of her past as possible.
Being psychologically damaged opens my mind to the long-term effect of physical abuse not to mention emotional abuse. It taught me to be more understanding towards others.
And the story makes me proud of her choices and I want to celebrate her too on this page. How brave she is to leave the bad life that his husband only gave. Who knows we will have David's exceptional stories arrive today if she chose to stay?
Those lines gave me hope, that I can choose my future and believe it will be bright if I have the courage.
On my reflections after reading the book, came my moment of enlightenment that our feeling is not caused by people. It doesn’t cool to let people dictate how we feel. We should embrace that our bad feelings even our good feelings are our responsibility. Let’s be the controller of our feelings.
By that, we can’t let ourselves in victim mentality. Inject that idea that no one can hurt you, frees you from mental slavery. We can make decisions fast since we know everything is our responsibility because our environment only responding how we behave in this world.
As Earl Nightingale said:
If we want to change our environment, let’s change our attitude toward ourselves. Since our attitude towards ourselves determines our attitude towards the world.
The final word:
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
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